I am figuring it out as I go.

I am from the UK, fond of coffee, and quite capable of overthinking something that ought to take five minutes.

When I write, I start with what actually happened. The awkward bits count. So do the wrong turns. If one small thing I tried gives you a useful idea for your own life, that is enough.

I cannot promise that what helped me will help you. I can tell you the truth about my experience and let you decide what to do with it.